THIS IS FOR ALL MY FELLOW MOMS!
OMG, did my son/daughter just leave me to go to College? I get it and I feel your pain!
18 years of:
- BLOOD (skinned knees & nose bleeds)
- SWEAT (keeping up with them, watching the from the sidelines willing them to win the game)
- TEARS (sending them off to kindergarten, seeing there feelings hurt by friends)
- JOY (when they learn to walk, ride a bike and make the team)
- UNCONDITIONAL LOVE (watching them while they sleep and sneaking in a kiss on the head).
Then, poof, they are off to college and running to get there without an ounce of hesitation.
Well, isn’t that the way it should be? Isn’t this what us mom’s (and Dad’s but for this blog I am going to address just the moms, no offense to all the wonderful dad’s out there) have been working for all of these years? To raise our kids to be independent enough to venture off into the world, college, for most, being the first stop.
The answer is YES, however, that does not make the ache in our hearts go away or the deafening quiet in our homes feel any better. Have no fear; I am here to tell you, from experience, YOU WILL BE OK!
I would like to offer a thought to those moms who are having a difficult time with their kids being away. What if instead of focusing on how quiet the house is or how your heart aches, you just shifted your way of thinking, change of perspective if you will?
NEW PERSPECTIVE: ( I have adopted this over the past three years since my daughter left for college)
Remember when you were on the sidelines watching in pride as your son or daughter made the school play, played in a basketball league or just got a great grade on an assignment they worked hard on. Well, although you cannot be on the sidelines literally, I am suggesting you can still “watch” and pay attention as your son or daughter blossom and grow as both student and young adult. Watch them as they navigate managing their daily lives, choosing what clubs or activities to get involved with, developing strong opinions about life, politics, religion etc. and developing new and meaningful friendships. Revel in the joy of who your son or daughter is becoming, because of the foundation you laid before them!
On a personal note:
Come next fall, I will have to shift my perspective again, our son will leave for college, leaving my husband and I empty nesters! Here is how I am choosing to look at it. I will miss him, however, there will be less laundry, fewer trips to the market, less dishes to wash and every night could be a Friday night. Just sayin’!
Try this new shift in thinking and let me know how it is for you. Leave a thought or comment below because us moms need to stick together.
EXCITING NEWS TO SHARE WITH ALL THE MOMS OUT THERE:
You have done your job up until this point, but make no mistake about it; your kids still need their MOM! They may not believe so, but if you are patient, wait, let them adjust and find their way on their own, I promise you that the phone will start to ring and the texts will start to ding.
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“Being a Mother is not about what you gave up to have a child, but what you’ve gained from having one.” -unknown
Be strong and look for my next blog if you find yourself asking, Now what do I do?
Jodi wears many hats, but first and foremost she is a mom! She runs multiple businesses & is currently pursing her certification for becoming a Certified Life Coach through the Life Purpose Institute.